Proverbs 13:10 – My Pride Says I’m Right

10 Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.

I know I’m right

Have you ever listened to a parent talking with a teenager?

It can be fun, to say the least.

You see, a teenager has “seen it all” and “knows about everything” now that they have lived on this earth as long as they have.

A teenager “understands what the world is all about” and is “always in perfect control” of his or her life.

But you know, a parent has been through “everything” that a teenager is going through “knows all about everything” going on and how to solve every situation.

A parent “has to control” the family and everything that affects them.

Both sides know and can.

Not Listening

The problem that always comes in is that, sorry, teenager, you have not been around as long as your parents, and they have been through a lot more than you may ever know.

The problem that always comes in is that, sorry, parent, teens actually do go through different circumstances and know more than you may realize.

In other words, the reason so many fights break out between parents and teens is that both know everything going on and think they can control it. This usually includes not hearing what the other is saying, because each side is so sure that the other does not understand as much as they think.

And usually they are both right.

And usually they are both wrong.


Just like in any relationship – from parents and children to friends to spouses to complete strangers – contention arises because we fail to listen.

The wise choice is … wait for it … TO LISTEN!

Much contention, fights, and hatred could be avoided if we would just listen to each other, hear each side. Then, find your common ground and dialogue.

If you can not do it, get another person to help, but be willing to hear that person tell you that you are wrong (Matthew 18:15-17). Pride will tell you to fight it.

If you listen to pride, go back to the beginning of this little devotional.

Lord, teach us humility, even though it may hurt to get to it. Give us a heart to listen and hear and to admit when we are wrong. Give us the wisdom to listen to others and know when it is okay to speak (James 1:19)


About Daniel M. Klem

I am a product of the '80's (meaning I was born in that decade) and married to the most beautiful woman I know since 2009 (beautiful in appearance and as a woman of God). I graduated in the spring of 2013 from Grand Canyon University with a Christian Leadership major, and now I am a student at Phoenix Seminary. Also, most importantly, Jesus saved me ... and you. View all posts by Daniel M. Klem

3 responses to “Proverbs 13:10 – My Pride Says I’m Right

  • Samuel

    Yes, listening is something I’ve been brought to heel about many times. It’s humbling! God’s discipline can be hard. There are others who know better! And the place to start is listening to God Himself each day and surrendering ourselves to Him. Then we will know His will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding. This maturity in the Word of Christ leads us even further. We will find ourselves in the place where we can be listened to – a place where we can instruct, train and admonish one another wisely. So everybody wins! Thanks for your post.

    • Daniel M. Klem

      It sure can be humbling. I have been through the process a few times of being reminded. Oddly enough, I have even been harassed for listening too well!

      Also, I was reminded to write this post while sitting in a friends house with their pre-teen son while they had to go at it with their teen daughter. (They were right in this instance) I warned them that they helped inspire a devotional message! (They like it, too)

      Like you said, listening makes it possible to instruct, train and admonish one another wisely. We must remember to listen to our Lord, first!

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