A Tattler No More

Proverbs 11:13

“A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.”

There is a reason verse thirteen comes after verse twelve (other than the logical number sequence). As implied and stated yesterday, all people are our neighbors, and what we do and say with/about one person easily comes out around others including loved ones. It comes out of what is in our hearts.


In middle and high school (late primary and early secondary school, for all of you who think of it that way), after years of bullying and before being led to the arms of Christ, I let the things of life get to me. It started with not liking certain people, which grew to hating certain people, which grew to hating pretty much all people, which grew to even hating myself. I hid the truth of how I felt, because I was sure no one would understand … or that they might stop me from finding enjoyment.

The only enjoyment I seemed to find was in causing dissension, getting a rise out of others. My method of choice:

Making up stories or discovering stories that others wanted secret and then spreading them.

Needless to say, I did not help matters with my personal life (though, I did get quite good about covering my slandering tracks … not a good thing, to be sure). But I did not care.

It caused more pain than pleasure, not only for others but also me.


I know God changed me because of this.

I went from spreading stories out of my hatred to wanting to not cause pain and usurp hatred in my life. In fact, some loved ones jokingly loathed how I changed!

I still spread stories and revealed facts that some found embarrassing, but they were always about me. I learned that to avoid hatred and evil growing within me, keeping myself accountable meant keeping others in the know.

Instead of other people’s dirty laundry, I share my own. It hurts at times, but people know a) how to pray for me and b) that I do understand many things they may be going through.

I do not share, however, everyone else’s secrets. God is gracious enough to forget and help me grow past my sins, so I can forget and help people grow past their secrets and sins. If they are to be shared, the other person can share.

I am only trustworthy because of God. That is really the main point.

Lord, grow in me a faithful spirit. Let others know that I can be trusted with their hurts and secrets. Let others know they can find love in me, because You are in me.


About Daniel M. Klem

I am a product of the '80's (meaning I was born in that decade) and married to the most beautiful woman I know since 2009 (beautiful in appearance and as a woman of God). I graduated in the spring of 2013 from Grand Canyon University with a Christian Leadership major, and now I am a student at Phoenix Seminary. Also, most importantly, Jesus saved me ... and you. View all posts by Daniel M. Klem

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