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Too Excited or a Babbler?

A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.Proverbs 20:19 NIV

Innocent Excitement

Growing up we knew not to tell my sister exciting news that needed to be kept secret (like presents for people). Likewise, my wife hates secrets and surprises, because she wants to tell others. They just love seeing people get excited.

The verse today is not about people like them, who innocently want to bring people joy. (But if you want to surprise someone, you might have to surprise people like my sister and wife, as well!)

Babblers

Other translations use the word “babbler” instead of “anyone who talks too much.”

These are the people who simply have no filter, feel the need to incessantly talk, or, worse, like causing trouble or even harm.

It tends to be easy to find them. They may be the only person you told something to, like the coworker you told you might be getting a raise, and now everyone knows (and may be jealous). It could be at church, when someone reveals “dirt” or offers a “prayer request” that takes five minutes to explain the nitty-gritty details.

As for you, simply be someone that can be trusted. Be the crying shoulder and listening ear, the confidante that others rely on.

Which type of person are you?

Do you get too excited sometimes?

Do you blab and undermine?

Or do you know how to hold your tongue and maintain confidence and trust?

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A Tattler No More

Proverbs 11:13

“A talebearer revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.”

There is a reason verse thirteen comes after verse twelve (other than the logical number sequence). As implied and stated yesterday, all people are our neighbors, and what we do and say with/about one person easily comes out around others including loved ones. It comes out of what is in our hearts.

Tattle-tale

In middle and high school (late primary and early secondary school, for all of you who think of it that way), after years of bullying and before being led to the arms of Christ, I let the things of life get to me. It started with not liking certain people, which grew to hating certain people, which grew to hating pretty much all people, which grew to even hating myself. I hid the truth of how I felt, because I was sure no one would understand … or that they might stop me from finding enjoyment.

The only enjoyment I seemed to find was in causing dissension, getting a rise out of others. My method of choice:

Making up stories or discovering stories that others wanted secret and then spreading them.

Needless to say, I did not help matters with my personal life (though, I did get quite good about covering my slandering tracks … not a good thing, to be sure). But I did not care.

It caused more pain than pleasure, not only for others but also me.

Faithful

I know God changed me because of this.

I went from spreading stories out of my hatred to wanting to not cause pain and usurp hatred in my life. In fact, some loved ones jokingly loathed how I changed!

I still spread stories and revealed facts that some found embarrassing, but they were always about me. I learned that to avoid hatred and evil growing within me, keeping myself accountable meant keeping others in the know.

Instead of other people’s dirty laundry, I share my own. It hurts at times, but people know a) how to pray for me and b) that I do understand many things they may be going through.

I do not share, however, everyone else’s secrets. God is gracious enough to forget and help me grow past my sins, so I can forget and help people grow past their secrets and sins. If they are to be shared, the other person can share.

I am only trustworthy because of God. That is really the main point.

Lord, grow in me a faithful spirit. Let others know that I can be trusted with their hurts and secrets. Let others know they can find love in me, because You are in me.