“Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of sacrifices with strife.”
“Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.” (NIV)
I have some friends. These friends are great people, and soon after they got married they moved in with my wife and me.
We had to live together, you see, because I had lost my job, my wife had just graduated and was looking for work, and they had no jobs of their own. The little bit of income the four of us brought in was barely enough to pay rent, the bills, and get food.
And you know: the four of us have so many great memories together.
There were times when we were sharing three-day-old spaghetti, because that was all we had. There were times we borrowed toilet paper from their parents. There were times we had to ask family for money or food just to get by.
But we would play games together, laugh about the silliest things, and share all of our hurts and joys together.
Too much on the plate
Of those friends, his family is great. My wife and I call his parents “our other parents”. Her family makes Jacob’s (from Genesis) look like a finely functioning family. (If you do not know what I mean, go read Jacob’s story in Genesis 25-37!)
Her family squabbles about every little thing (really, it is her sisters who do all of the squabbling), while dad lets them figure it out on their own and mom cleans up the messes. My poor friend (and her mom, really) are the closest to sane in the whole family.
The problem is not that the family does not need to worry about money, because they are doing rather well.
The problem is that everyone is either looking out only for themselves (the sisters) or do not know how to deal with issues well if at all (mom and dad). They just keep heaping everything on until there is an explosion, and everyone is hurt.
My friends prefer spending the afternoon with us walking our dog and cleaning up his messes than a short meal with her family.
The Crumby Life
It is possible to “have it all” and live in peace and quiet. The real issue is that people try to make this life all about themselves, and they take and take and take without really giving back.
We must learn to be content, to seek God and what He has for us, and to share with others more than we demand.
Only then will we find peace.
God of peace, grant us the wisdom to find contentment with what You have already blessed us. If we are eager for more, may it be of more of You and sharing with others. Make us the peacemakers and givers of this world!
July 23rd, 2018 at 4:30 pm
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