Building a Home

Proverbs 14:1

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

Housebuilding

Six months before we got married my wife and I purchased our first home. Mortgages were not easy to come by in 1978 and we had to find a deposit of £1,000 for a house that cost £14,995. Prudently we saved far more than the deposit before applying for a mortgage. Why? Because a house without furniture would not have been a home. Some of our furniture was purchased second-hand, some of it was new. Some of it was given to us by relatives who wanted to pass on their hand-me-downs. It didn’t really matter where it came from, what mattered was that we were building a home.

Lived In

When I look back at our first house it wasn’t perfect. The wallpaper and carpets were chosen by the previous owner and could best be described as ‘loud.’ The electric heating was inefficient and expensive. The front door caught the force of the wind and the rain in winter and used to jam. But whatever else that house was it was our home. It was where we lived and raised our family for fourteen years. If you had visited you might not have found a tidy home, but you would have found a home that was lived in. A home that was built and cherished by a wise woman. My wife.

Tenant or Owner

Just as our homes should be filled with evidence of our lives, Scripture teaches that our lives should be filled with evidence of God’s Holy Spirit. If we have surrendered our lives to God this is equivalent to opening the front door of our home and inviting Him in as the new owner, not just a tenant. If we do this then He will help us to change the decoration, fit new carpets, install new heating, and anything else He sees necessary for Him to feel comfortable living in us. It all boils down to ownership. Have you made God the owner of your house or do you treat Him like a tenant?

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About David

David is the son of Ken and father of Nick, who first introduced him to blogging. Ken is a retired Baptist Minister who continues to preach regularly, despite being in his eighties. Nick is training for full time Baptist ministry after several years serving as a youth pastor. Somehow the being a preacher thing skipped a generation with David. Although half Scottish David grew up in England and in the Channel Island of Guernsey. He served in the British Merchant Navy after leaving school, and did not attend University until he was twenty-eight years old. By this time he was married to Marilyn and father to Nick, and Nick’s brother Michael. Another son (James) was born the day before the start of David’s final University examinations. Beth and John followed a few years later. The older boys are all married, and David and Marilyn have been presented with four grandsons to date. Beth has served with British Youth for Christ (YFC) for three years as member and then leader of the Nomad cage football team (Google it!) and has recently taken up a new post involving a new YFC ministry (watch this space). John, who is 17, is now the only one of our children still living at home. David and Marilyn met in 1973 and have been married since 1979. Marilyn is a trained nurse, who gave up nursing to be a full time mother, grandmother, and maker of cakes for pastors, youth pastors, and any church function that needs cakes. There is a rumour that she secretly reads David’s blogs. Family and church leave little time for hobbies, but David enjoys walking and cycling, and listening to music. He also dabbles with languages and is currently learning to speak Welsh. (By way of explanation the Welsh border is 11 miles from David's home, and his water bills arrive in both English and Welsh from Dŵr Cymru.) View all posts by David

5 responses to “Building a Home

  • Out of Eden Ministries

    “our lives should be filled with evidence of God’s Holy Spirit.” Ok…I’ll be pondering that one for the rest of the day. Or week. Good post! Love how you honor your wife in it!

    • David

      Thank you. I can remember comparing our ‘lived in’ home to someone else’s immaculately tidy home and I know which one was home. I guess that’s how I feel about God living in me. I am not sure, but I think He’d rather be comfortable than tidy. Would tidy be legalistic? (One for Anthony Baker to answer.)

      • Out of Eden Ministries

        Good thought. And let me tell you…I’ve compared my “lived in” home to many, many homes over the years. Took a long time for me to be ok with the untidiness of my home. And yes, I’m speaking physically and spiritually here. See what I did there? lol.

      • Daniel M. Klem

        Fortunately for me, my lovely bride of 3.5 years has learned that everything does not need to be always in just the right place and/or out of sight. We keep a clean home, but people who walk in know we actually live here!

        And to be a part of the grander conversation, this post reminded me of Shaun Groves’s song “Welcome Home”. The whole song is worth mentioning, but here is the chorus:

        Come inside this heart of mine
        It’s not my own
        Make it home
        Come and take this heart and make it
        All Your own
        Welcome Home

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