Wounds from a friend can be trusted,
but an enemy multiplies kisses.
It Makes Sense
This is one of those proverbs we can look at and agree with. We all know it makes sense. It is much better to have friends who will be honest with us even when it hurts, then friends who will just pamper and flatter us even when we are clearly in the wrong.
The trouble is something making sense doesn’t guarantee we will follow the advice. In this case there are multiple reasons why we ignore this advice, our society is much more comfortable with flattery, even when it’s false, than truth; it can be hard to receive truth from a friend; we can find it difficult to speak truthfully to our friends incase they decide to ditch us.
First Things Firsts
To see more meaningful relationships we need to be ready to be examples. We need to be people who are good at taking criticism, and also brave enough to give it. Many people mis read the plank in the eye parable. They use the excuse that as they will never be perfect, and therefore always have impaired vision, they cannot challenge other’s behaviour. I have even heard parents say that they cannot challenge their wayward ward because they were just as bad when they were children. But we only need to read to the end of the parable to see Jesus intention –
Matthew 7:5 (emphasis mine) ‘You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.’
We are to be wounded and we are to wound. And all the better our friendships shall be for it.
October 24th, 2013 at 8:57 am
So true. Many get the impression that since they have a plank in their own eye, they might as well forget pointing out the splinter in another’s. No, they shouldn’t do surgery with a tree in their eye, but once the tree is removed, then scrub up. A splinter in one’s eye can still cause one to have a car wreck and hurt a lot of people.